2.21.2006 – 3 in a month, what the hell?

21 02 2006
  My thoughts exactly.Three is the magic number, correct?

At any rate, I decided to google the good old QLC (I actually typed in “Quarter-Life Crisis”). Up popped the amazon link to the book that started it all (that is oddly not carried by my local public library), as well as a host of other blogs catering to this phenomenon. I checked out a few. Or at least just checked out the headline.

Am I still suffering from the QLC? Am I still in my QLC?

QLC is defined by some sense of insecurity and/or uncertainty. The only thing I’m insecure about (that I can figure) is my self-image. But that always happens. To anyone. It’s just one of those things. The only thing I’m uncertain about is my social life. But, that too, is just another one of those things.





2.5.2006 – Public Service Announcement

5 02 2006

Public humiliation.

It’s not a sign of being the bigger person. It’s a sign of immaturity.

I’m learning my lessons that people who are beautiful on the outside are rarely beautiful on the inside.

I do know some beautiful folks who are beautiful inside and out. But then again, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

And another thing that I’ve concluded since this debacle:
(pardon the formatting, it was taken from an IM to a friend)
so conclusions: i’ve gotta agree with the blacks that mostly nothing has changed (mentality wise) since segregation [concerning racism]. america may be the land of opportunity, but it’s populated by mostly stupid people (this comment has nothing to do with politics). and most conventionally beautiful people are hollow shells inside. nothing beautiful underneath.

I’m rereading this, and I really shouldn’t be making these huge generalizations, but in the heat of the moment, I should be allowed.

I will remain as I always have been. Just a little more vigilant.





2.1.2006 – It’s a twofer!

1 02 2006

After a somewhat long absence (what can I say, I’ve been busy with the ups and downs of an internship — post-grad), I have returned. What little loyal readers I may or may not have. (I really have no clue)

I also bring you a double-whammy. Just to make up for lost time.

The first part deals with interpersonal relationships (both are copied from my myspace blog (yes, I tearfully admit, I possess such a page)) and the demise of my latest one. O lackaday! Like any female, discussion will follow. Lots of in-depth soul-searching discussion. Damn female need to talk about everything.
The second part deals with an important part of the all-consuming job search for any twenty-something with next to no job security. Finding healthcare benefits. Let’s face it, as part of the twenty-something crowd who have just been unceremoniously spit out (So you have the graduation ceremony, so what. That’s not the kind of ceremony I was referring to) into the Real World (no, not like the popular MTV television show) — you don’t have any readily handy healthcare benefits. If you’re like me, you’ve been kicked out from under the protective umbrella of your parents’ insurance. Or (also like me) school’s over and you aren’t covered by their cheapass “insurance” any longer. For those of you who have been covered by school insurance, you know exactly what I’m talking about. Again, more discussion — but less soul-searching. Job’s a job. Career’s a career.

Moving on.

Death of a Friendship (or did a friendship ever exist in the first place?) (or what kind of jackass are you anyway?) (or … oh hell, just read it)

A couple of weeks ago, I lost a friend. Now, I’m not going to be biased and complain about whose fault it was — but none of that really concerns any of you, nor does it really pertain to the point of this entry.

If you’re friends with someone, and that friend of yours does something wrong — do you flat out say how pathetic that person is? Or do you try to explain to them why their actions are wrong?

In my opinion, if you were trying to salvage whatever relationship you have with that person, you’d try to talk to them in a way that would make them understand what they had done wrong. No matter how painful or hurtful the original action was.

Was that person really a friend at all if their first reaction is not to explain, but to put you down? I understand calling it how you see it, but that’s about people you don’t know, you don’t care to know.

Discuss.

And moving on!

Work with Benefits (not to be confused with Friends With Benefits — that could be a whole other entry) (hell, that CAN be another entry, should I choose to tackle it. It’s an ISSUE.)

Benefits packages at work. (What a grown up subject. Yesterday it was interpersonal relationships, today it’s benefits. I promise I’ll have a less serious subject in a future blog)

The topic came up in an IM conversation today. So rather than reiterate, I’ll just copy and paste.

friend: That turned me off about RF — having to wait for benefits
me: Right. So you get instant benefits, but you leave a month later? They want to see if you’re worth keeping. I understand it. If I had stayed on at this company, my probationary period would have been my internship. Regardless, I still would have had to wait.
me: And mind you, I’ve been without insurance since my 22nd birthday.
me: I’d rather get the good job and wait for benefits than get hired solely on benefits.
me: Accept the job*
me: Seems like I have less medical issues when I don’t have benefits than when I do.
me: Just saying.
me: I’m not saying it should be totally out of the picture. But I’d rather have a good place with a good package that I’d have to wait for… than just a good place with an eh package that comes first.
me: But… that’s just how I look for jobs
friend: True
friend: I just feel like it is a slant against you
friend: Or an applicant, rather
friend: Because if they want you, they will give you what is fair. And withholding benefits is unjust.
friend: That’s my view
me: So when most large companies don’t give you benefits right away — when their policy is to have a probationary period for every employee regardless of rank, that means they’re a bad employer?
me: If it’s their policy, I don’t see anything wrong with it.
me: Like, if they want you, and they give you benefits right away, but you don’t seem (after a while) to be the employee they thought you could have been or you find another place of employment within a few months — why waste the benefits on you? That’s the point of a probationary period, I believe.
friend: True. But some companies (like Interpublic/Jack Morton) give you benefits during the probationary period.
friend: Benefits are a real dealbreaker
friend: And as the job market picks up, that can cost companies top talent.
me: It could, I suppose. But if you really want the job at a particular company, benefits or no, isn’t going to stop someone
me: Career over benefits for me.
friend: True
friend: I agree with your point.
friend: I just believe something different. This is one of those things where we agree to disagree.

Not like we had a knock-down drag-out fight over it. Just some healthy discussion.

Not saying that either one of us is completely right or completely wrong. I see both sides. But, of course, I still think I’m right.

Discuss.